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I want to be as transparent as possible but also keep in mind that my experience

may not be yours. Below is the clinical definitions to a few mental health struggles as

well as my own ideas. If any of these sound like you, please feel free to contact us

any way you see fit!


What is depression & how do I know if I am depressed?

Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical

illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think, and how you act.

Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss

of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and

physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:

○ Feeling sad or having a depressed mood

○ Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed

○ Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting

○ Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much

○ Loss of energy or increased fatigue

○ Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing,

handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be

severe enough to be observable by others)

○ Feeling worthless or guilty

○ Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions

○ Thoughts of death or suicide

Symptoms must last at least two weeks and must represent a change in your

previous level of functioning for a diagnosis of depression.

Anxiety & different coping styles

Do you constantly feel as if something bad is about to happen? Do you often get a

weird feeling in your gut? Have headaches often because you are clinching your jaw

too tight? Can you sometimes feel your heart begin to race and all of a sudden get

kind emotional?

Anxiety is intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday

situations. Fast heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and feeling tired may occur.

Anxiety can be normal, like before public speaking or taking a test, but when it

becomes excessive and is consuming your life then steps need to be taken to learn

to cope!

Honestly there are a million ways to cope and you would have to find what works

best for you! Physical activity, a healthy diet, regular sleep, and relaxation exercises

may all help reduce anxiety. Joining a support group may also help. To manage

symptoms effectively, it's best to avoid caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine.

I watched the casket drop on somebody I love. How do I

get through this?

Whew!!! This topic here gets me everytime! I am not even going to hit you with a

clinical definition because there is absolutely no time frame on the grieving process.

You have lost somebody you love, how do you get over that? In all honesty you

don’t! All you can do is learn how to live in a world without them, but that doesn’t

happen over night..hell it might take years! What I do know is you take your time and

do what is best for you. Understand that there are steps in the grieving process like

shock ,denial, pain,guilt,anger, and depression. Also understand that it is completely

normal and you are allowed to feel every emotion you need too.

PTSD? I thought that was only for war veterans!

Post traumatic stress disorder is a disorder in which a person has difficulty

recovering after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event.

The condition may last months or years, with triggers that can bring back memories

of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions.

Symptoms may include nightmares or unwanted memories of the trauma, avoidance

of situations that bring back memories of the trauma, heightened reactions, anxiety,

or depressed mood.

PTSD can stem from many different life experiences. If you have experienced a

trauma in your life(sexual abuse.death of a loved one, absent parent, car

accidents,etc), more than likely you suffer from PTSD. In order to own that we must

realize that PTSD from our traumas is a thing and therapy seriously does wonders.

To be able to talk it out is way more helpful than we have been programmed to think.

Sometimes, I just don’t think I can keep going. Nobody will

miss me. I don’t deserve to be happy.


You matter. You are not a burden. You will be extremely missed. You deserve this

life. It is NOT to late to be happy.

A trick that I do when I am in a dark place is to not be by myself! Find you that

person(s) who will allow you to do what you need to do rather you want to talk about

it or not. Somebody who will bring peace to your spirit and let you know that you are

needed in this life.

If you are contemplating suicide please don’t hesiate to contact me or the national

suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255.

I promise I am always hear to listen.

I don’t know what to say. How do I help?

If you are somebody who has never experienced any of these feelings but you have

someone in your life and you just don't know what to do or say, the best advice I can

give is to just ask! If you do not know what to say, its okay to ask what do they need

from you. The biggest thing is just needing the feeling that someone is there, that

someone cares, that someone will listen! NEVER and I repeat NEVER downplay

anyone's feelings with statements like “you’ll get over it” or “theres someone who

hasn't it worse than you”. Statements like those give people the feeling as if

something is wrong with them. Allow your friend/lover/family member have their