I want to be as transparent as possible but also keep in mind that my experience
may not be yours. Below is the clinical deﬁnitions to a few mental health struggles as
well as my own ideas. If any of these sound like you, please feel free to contact us
any way you see ﬁt!
What is depression & how do I know if I am depressed?
Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical
illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think, and how you act.
Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss
of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and
physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.
Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:
○ Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
○ Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
○ Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
○ Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
○ Loss of energy or increased fatigue
○ Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing,
handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be
severe enough to be observable by others)
○ Feeling worthless or guilty
○ Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions
○ Thoughts of death or suicide
Symptoms must last at least two weeks and must represent a change in your
previous level of functioning for a diagnosis of depression.
Anxiety & different coping styles
Do you constantly feel as if something bad is about to happen? Do you often get a
weird feeling in your gut? Have headaches often because you are clinching your jaw
too tight? Can you sometimes feel your heart begin to race and all of a sudden get
Anxiety is intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday
situations. Fast heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and feeling tired may occur.
Anxiety can be normal, like before public speaking or taking a test, but when it
becomes excessive and is consuming your life then steps need to be taken to learn
Honestly there are a million ways to cope and you would have to find what works
best for you! Physical activity, a healthy diet, regular sleep, and relaxation exercises
may all help reduce anxiety. Joining a support group may also help. To manage
symptoms effectively, it's best to avoid caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine.
I watched the casket drop on somebody I love. How do I
get through this?
Whew!!! This topic here gets me everytime! I am not even going to hit you with a
clinical definition because there is absolutely no time frame on the grieving process.
You have lost somebody you love, how do you get over that? In all honesty you
don’t! All you can do is learn how to live in a world without them, but that doesn’t
happen over night..hell it might take years! What I do know is you take your time and
do what is best for you. Understand that there are steps in the grieving process like
shock ,denial, pain,guilt,anger, and depression. Also understand that it is completely
normal and you are allowed to feel every emotion you need too.
PTSD? I thought that was only for war veterans!
Post traumatic stress disorder is a disorder in which a person has difficulty
recovering after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event.
The condition may last months or years, with triggers that can bring back memories
of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions.
Symptoms may include nightmares or unwanted memories of the trauma, avoidance
of situations that bring back memories of the trauma, heightened reactions, anxiety,
or depressed mood.
PTSD can stem from many different life experiences. If you have experienced a
trauma in your life(sexual abuse.death of a loved one, absent parent, car
accidents,etc), more than likely you suffer from PTSD. In order to own that we must
realize that PTSD from our traumas is a thing and therapy seriously does wonders.
To be able to talk it out is way more helpful than we have been programmed to think.
Sometimes, I just don’t think I can keep going. Nobody will
miss me. I don’t deserve to be happy.
You matter. You are not a burden. You will be extremely missed. You deserve this
life. It is NOT to late to be happy.
A trick that I do when I am in a dark place is to not be by myself! Find you that
person(s) who will allow you to do what you need to do rather you want to talk about
it or not. Somebody who will bring peace to your spirit and let you know that you are
needed in this life.
If you are contemplating suicide please don’t hesiate to contact me or the national
suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255.
I promise I am always hear to listen.
I don’t know what to say. How do I help?
If you are somebody who has never experienced any of these feelings but you have
someone in your life and you just don't know what to do or say, the best advice I can
give is to just ask! If you do not know what to say, its okay to ask what do they need
from you. The biggest thing is just needing the feeling that someone is there, that
someone cares, that someone will listen! NEVER and I repeat NEVER downplay
anyone's feelings with statements like “you’ll get over it” or “theres someone who
hasn't it worse than you”. Statements like those give people the feeling as if
something is wrong with them. Allow your friend/lover/family member have their